Just look into your heart my friend, that will be the return to yourself. The return to innocence

Post soundtrack: return to innocence by Enigma

What happened to innocence and finding yourself?

I remember a time when there was so much in this world I was protected from, so much I still had to learn.  There were things I was shielded from or banned to do because my parents wanted to protect my innocence.

Something I didn’t quite understand back then.  Sure I was a normal teenager who grew up sneaking cigarettes behind school and getting drunk on weekends.  But there was a certain safety net there as well.

The world has no filter anymore, there is nothing we are shielded from.  There is nothing that is too soon.   People are experiencing things I did at 18 by the time their 14.  The world is trying to move by too fast.  The 7 year itch has become the 3 year itch. Everything is just cut shorter and shorter the more options we have.  It’s so sad.

I’m quite sad to see that so many people give up the fight to search for who they really are, like women in this city.  By the time they are 25 all of them are almost clones of each other.  Same hair, make-up, plastic surgeon, clothing style.

You don’t know who you are at 25, but how are you going to find out if all you do is follow the mold of everyone else?

I was trying to have a conversation with someone who was 22.  She was really grown up, she could hold the conversation without a doubt. But at the same time I thought “you are too young to be living this lifestyle.”  Maybe because I didn’t get to fully enjoy that time in my life, I was in a rush to grow up.  It’s overrated.

Take your time people. Don’t be in such a rush to get somewhere and to be someone, build yourself.  Character takes time to build, I’m not even done yet.

I’m learning the beauty of trying to find innocence again in the small things, taking things in life slow.  Enjoying the moments without rushing.  You can see everything so much better when you slow down.

How deep is your love…

Post  soundtrack: How deep is your love by bee gees

I have not disappeared, I’m gathering new perspectives and experiences with new outlooks.  I have really come to enjoy learning life and what to take away from experiences.  Lately has been a wonderful time for me, I will choose not to reveal too much but I’m experiencing allot of good emotions and it all took me such by surprise.  So I’m savoring the moments.

Anyway I will be back soon with more of my insights, but I want to share with you something I saw on my friends facebook wall today and it’s again something I have always preached but people cowardly run away.

I just love the message of

it’s learning to love the person you found.

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

Little darling, it feels like years since it’s been here. Here comes the sun and I say it’s alright.

Post soundtrack: Here comes the sun by George Harrison

It’s wonderful, I can feel a new season is coming in my fingertips  Well OK so it’s hot as fuck at the moment, but it’s more a metaphoric change of season.

I feel like I have lived in a long dark winter forever, but now the sun is out and everything is just wonderful.  Life is wonderful and I find myself extremely content with life.  I think for people like me who have wallowed in a dark place for a long time, grasp that energy even more when it finally comes.  My life is very rich at the moment, rich with friends, social gatherings and everyday laughter.

I have finally closed the chapter on the year that passed, suitable since it’s rounding up to a year since it all fell apart.  That exhilarating feeling of closing that book, put it down it down and move on to the next chapter is beautiful.  I also started to see again how beautiful I really am as a human being, feels like I have reunited with an long lost friend.

Hope you reading this can feel my energy and feel the wonderful change of season.

You know I’ve seen a lot of what the world can do and it’s breakin’ my heart in two

Post Soundtrack: Wild World by Cat Stevens

It never seizes to amaze me how completely clueless people can get when it comes to insensitivity, respect and just appropriateness.

Do you ever wonder if sometimes people do things on purpose because no one can be that clueless in certain situations?  Especially when just comes to common decency, those are the ones that always throws me off with human beings.  Like, did that person really just do that?  I thought that person was smarter and knew better, behaved better bla bla bla

You have certain areas in your life that you need to separate from each other. Like some people, never mingle work and social life.  Some never take work home, just rules in general of keeping your life separate and having boundaries.

I been setting up new boundaries and rules myself, some which have been particularly challenging for me and is still quite hard.  But the important thing is that I’m doing it.  I feel people around see what I’ve been doing as well and many are amazed at the huge steps I have made.  I’m almost acting like a graceful lady.  It’s just when people suddenly step over your boundaries and just brings another world into your world that you get a bit confused. A clash of boundaries.  They should have known better after seeing everything I did to set up all these things.

It wasn’t a big deal, but then again it was.  Today I experienced something similar to that.   I have my world, my absolute safe haven where everything I love the most in the world is placed, this is my most precious place and the people I invite into this part of my world is friends and people I trust.

I was thoroughly disappointed when someone wanted to bring something into my world which I don’t want to have any part of, associate with and especially come into my the place where I feel most safe.

Just because I act one way when I am out public, it is because I’m a lady and like I said, some people can work great together in business, but want nothing to do with each other privately.  Well, that is what I have with my social world and my private world.  Socially I will be nice, but privately I need respect and I was so baffled of the audacity and nerve someone was gonna do today, which would have invaded my safe haven.

It sounds very dramatic and I prefer not to tell the story, because that way you as a reader might find a situation you can relate to instead, also it’s my way of keeping it private.  Plus you would think it’s the silliest thing when if I were to tell the story, but it doesn’t matter, what matters is that it’s important to me.  Anyway, I think my friend got the point, I hope so, if they don’t understand then clearly clueless.

Everyone needs a place where things they love dearly  will always be out of reach and protected from people you don’t want in your life. You hold on to the things you can control and have, because you realize there is almost nothing you can control in this life.  So while I still can, what is most precious to me in my life right now will remain.

If we met tomorrow for the very first time would it start all over again?

Post Soundtrack: Simple kind of life by No Doubt

I watched the movie “This is 40″ last night, if you watched knocked up, it’s the couple who played the sister of the knocked up girl.

May I just say, I urge all couples to see this movie.  One, it’s really funny and because it’s all so true. I found myself laughing thru the movie because I have found myself in every single scenario in that movie.

I think every couple who live together will get a relief watching a movie like this, to be honest I really wish this movie came out a year ago right about this time.  I really could have used it then.  It’s really well made, because it won’t make you feel stressed.  It will actually make you look at everything in a comedic way, that the things we sometimes make a big deal out of is actually quite silly. That we forget to focus on what is actually there.

OK, so I cried when I finished watching the movie.  Not because it was sad, but because I feel I missed it.  I mentioned in my last post I missed having someone to talk to.  Well watching that movie, I actually miss having someone to be pissed off at.

I miss throwing my stupid tantrums at times that just didn’t make sense, now that I look back they make me smile.  Because they meant nothing.

The movie is a comfort that you are not alone, that the problems you hit when you live with someone is completely normal.  The fact you want to murder your partner, be repulsed, yell at them, be annoyed and want to be as far away as possible from them is in fact normal.  That when you think

“What do we even have in common and doing together??”

It is all part of the whole deal and no matter what you can’t escape that, it’s all a process you have to go through.

You all really should watch this movie.  If you ever come to this point in your life with someone you care about and spending your life with, please know it’s perfectly normal.  All girls are like Debbie, I know so many girls including myself who are exactly like Debbie.  Fighting to keep the passion.  I know many men like Pete, too busy with their new business and their careers, forgetting to take care of home. So many boys I know are like this, not knowing that nothing is in fact wrong and running away it will only happen again.

It’s a very funny movie, with lots of r rated jokes that includes sex and f words, my kind of jokes.  I love a woman who is real and shouts fuck you. That’s what real women do.

There can be miracles when you believe

Post Soundtrack: When you believe by Mariah and Whitney oh yes, I went all the way there.

Do you believe in miracles?

Well I might just be carrying the next messiah, just so you know.  So, I´m not a virgin, but I have convinced myself that I have conceived and carrying some spawn of the greater Gods above.

Then again, I most likely am just having one of those months where the body is just out of synch.

All I know is that I am waaaaaay way way way late, I´m never late.  Have all the signs, nausea, swollen tata´s and that whole shindig.  The thing is, I took a vow of celibacy remember?  I was not gonna do the sex thing and just focus me for a while.  The only person who has seen my hooha is my waxer, though there is this thing my porn star friend told me to do for sex class and . . . well that’s another story.

So when I told my boss I think I´m carrying Jesus version 2.0, (we are quite close at the office) they went and seriously got me, not one, but two pregnancy tests.  I told them, there is no way I could ever have a baby in me.  Unless

1. I blacked out so terribly and went home or took home some guy.  But I haven´t blacked out.
2. Sperm from a year ago is just reaching my womb.
3. God has made love to me.   I´m gonna go for 3.

I really hope I´m carrying the next baby Jesus.  So stay tuned

You tell anyone who’ll listen, but you feel ignored. Nothing’s really making any sense at all, let’s talk

Post Soundtrack: Talk by Coldplay

I need a T-shirt that reads

“I didn’t drunk text you, vodka did.”  Fuck, do I have the need to speak my mind when I drink.  Let me tell you, that’s not always a fucking good thing.  I have very strong opinions.

Lately I’m experimenting this emptiness at home, I don’t know if it’s age, the fact I have a 9 to 5 job or that I live alone.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m perfectly happy and currently having a really good life and circle of friends.

Yet,I come home from work and I collapse on the couch for ten fifteen minutes to just go ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh and mong out like a zombie and just release the day.  Then I feel the urge to talk to someone about my day.  I call my girlfriends and guy friends and we talk and usually it’s good fun conversations, but when I hang up I realize that’s not really the conversation I want.

I urge for those mundane boring ones that my best friend could not be bothered hearing about cause she doesn’t know the people in my work life.  Just silly things that happened at work, what I saw on the way to work, what happened in a meeting, what project is coming up and then maybe talk some mundane thing I found out about a friend.  Someone called me, emailed me.  I miss a warm energy power up hug.  I yearn for dinner conversations. Debating, discussing the news, I love talking about a cool article I found on the net or something I disocovered.  I’m always discovering new things in media and I get so excited about it and i want to share it.  There are certain things that are meant to be shared with someone you live with be it partner, husband or even room-mate.  I have two dogs, I love them to bits and million pieces, but they don’t talk back to me.

I need to communicate, maybe that’s why I’m more active online, I have such yearn to express, I do believe if I would write a bit less or no, write differently if I had someone to talk to.  I been talking to some some men here and there, but I wouldn’t say there is anything potential.  I guess you realize all these things when you live all by yourself, how important it is to have someone you can talk to, hear you out, who understands you and maybe gives you a bit tough love if your a baby, then give advice on the little things in life.  Those day to day little things, because in the end that is how our life is gonna be like everyday, so having someone I can look forward to come back home to and unwind my day with would be so wonderful. Don’t take for granted if you have that in your life right now, cause it’s very lonely when it’s gone. I have a date coming up, but I don’t want to talk about that side my life too much, but that could be good.

What would you think if I sang out of tune, would you stand up and walk out on me?

Post Soundtrack: With a little help from my friends by Joe Cocker

A friend once told me, they wished me a happy and successful life. My friend said, they would be there for me if it really came down to it. That’s the fundamental of all friendships, luckily I can feel that, but not with everyone.

A friend who cares for you will not hurt you. A friend who respects you, will not treat you less. A friend who honors you, will keep their word. There are friends who say they wish you happiness, but only bring you misery. There are friends who say they want the best for you, but only puts you down. There are friends that know what upsets you and don’t seem to care, even though they say sorry, it doesn’t feel real.

If you have such people in your life who said such things, who leave you waiting in the dark, then they don’t have your best interest at heart. A real friend will stand up for you and protect you. You can tell a real friends they are being an asshole or doing a dumb mistake because you love them and they wont get mad, So stop making excuse for these people, instead help them back. Most people would say cut them off, I don’t believe in that. My heart is too good for that.

Instead reach out a hand, if they don’t want to take it, then just step back and watch from a far. But always keep you door open. That’s what true good friend would do, they don’t judge or condemn, understand even though it pains you. Always keep your door open. Give second chances, listen. But step back, let them live, look for the signs and you will know when it’s time.

What I learned I rejected but I believe again..

Post Soundtrack: Forgiven by Alanis Morissette

Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.

I read this quote today and it really hit close to home, it was one of those quotes where suddenly everything made sense.  OK, so it’s a quote by Oprah but we’ll see past that tiny information for now.

I have been known to live in my past before, I used to do that but I can gladly say I don’t anymore.  There was so much anger from my past.  There are so many things I truly wish I did different when it comes to work, education, money and relationships.  This which has caused me to be so hard on myself.

We need to learn to forgive our past, every single bit of it. There is nothing you can do now that will change what happened back then, but the actions you take today can change your future. I know first handedly that staying angry at the past will only consume you with negative energy, it will have a grip on you.  If a person has hurt you, you are giving this person control of your emotions.  You are only hurting yourself.

We are constantly learning, this I have learned.  I felt particularly tested for a long period.  I lived in ache and sorrow, but now I am asking myself, what was I being tested for? What strength of character did it develop in me? Patience? Courage? Forgiveness? Understanding? Resilience? What must I now develop?

I no longer believe in anger, though I do loose my temper and stand up for myself.  I let go, and I wish those who are angry with me happiness instead.  A concept that has taken me a good  soul searching and therapy to understand. Think of it like this.

A wise woman and her young disciple were walking down the street. Suddenly, out of nowhere, an angry man in a carriage drove haphazardly by the two, insensitively pushing the woman out of his way. She landed in a ditch filled with muddy water. The woman yelled after the man in the carriage, “May you have everything you want!” The disciple, surprised by the wise woman’s response, said: “I’m confused. Why did you say that to a man with such horrible behavior?” The woman replied, “Because a happy man wouldn’t have thoughtlessly pushed a woman into a ditch.”

I’m truly learning that people who are truly happy will not be afraid.  Has no worries.  So if someone can’t reason with me, I let them go.  In time when they are ready they will see clearly.

Every single human have insecurities.  I believe there are good and bad insecurities.  The ones that make you a bit afraid and stop you from showing the world how wonderful you truly are, and the ones where you destruct and bring the world down around you.  I have been both of those.  I don’t find insecurities attractive.  I find confidence attractive and a person who knows exactly what and who they stand for. Jealousy is a horrible insecurity, especially among women, it makes us act out in the most repulsive way.  I see it much here where I live, and it makes me sad.  So many girls feel they need to compensate their insecurities with sexiness, instead they loose themselves in a crown and just become a sea of dolls who all look the same.

Do what you feel is right, don’t ever let your insecurities or fear get in the way no matter what people tell you.  Listen to what you feel and do it!

FYI

If you gather Norwegians, Swedes and a little alcohol around a dinner table. You will laugh so hard and loud throughout the meal. Win win

What goes around, goes around, goes around, comes all the way back around

Post Soundtrack:What goes around comes around by Justin Timberlake

My birthday couldn’t have been more perfect! I had the most perfect dinner filled with laughter and love, surrounded by real loving friends. Oh, I also reached my boob fund, wohoo, thank you all!

In the end its sharing life and surrounding yourself with good friends that matter the most, they made me forget about aging. If it’s one thing I can honestly and proudly say, it is that I am very loved by my friends, I have always been blessed with having such great friends all over that last forever. I believe it´s because I am fully there for everyone, I never judge my friends. I do say things out loud and have super strong opinions, but when it really comes to it, they know I don’t judge.  I´m truly lucky to be incredibly loved and have so many friends in all corners of the world.

They also got me ridiculously drunk, the free limonchello from the Italian waiter didn’t help. Followed by the sake and lad bombs ( double redbull vodka shots with a shot of jeger in it) it went blurry after that.

I somehow ended throwing popcorn at people wearing a vespa helmet and thick rimmed glasses for far-sighted people, I´m shortsighted. I also saw a special needs person and wanted to lift him up and play with it, I really love special needs people, I’m disgustingly classy. I’m not sure how I ended up doing ballroom dancing in my ballet point toe shoes, but I did do a full concert rendition of David Hasslehoff  “I’m looking for freedom” …it’s tradition….she said.

Friday sucked balls. Mostly because I was so intoxicated with alcohol I could not move or make it to work, but also I had to deal with a fucking douche. I’m not even gonna get into it. Listen, I’m not perfect either, I can be a pain in the ass bitch, I fully admit that, at least I acknowledge it, but Jesus Christ can people be lost in themselves. To check I asked my friends, because I don’t always trust my judgement when rage is in the way, the conclusion and final consent: douchebag.

So after that I went and read and did some homework instead.
Dr.puzzle and I have been working hard and I´ve been reading many writings he has given me, signed up for many sites, so I wanted to share something I read yesterday when I was fumingly angry and had my feelings incredibly hurt.

16 harsh truths that make us stronger

It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them.
More strength to relate to people than to dominate them.
More manhood or womanhood to obey by thought out principles than blind reflex.
Toughness is in the soul and spirit not in muscles and immature mind.
Life is not easy, hard work makes people lucky.
It’s the stuff that bring dreams to reality.
So start every morning ready run further than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before.
You will fail sometimes.
The faster you accept this, the faster you can move on with being brilliant.
You will never be a 100% sure it will work but you can always be a 100% sure that doing nothing wont work.
Get out there and do something.
You will either succeed or you will learn a vital lesson, win win.
Right now there is allot you don’t know.
The day you stop learning is the day you stop living.
Embrace new information.
Think about it and use it to advance yourself.
There may not be a tomorrow, not for everyone.
Right now someone on earth is planning something for tomorrow without 16 harsh truths that makes us stronger.

I read this and got my head in place and then I rememberd something I keep telling myself.  Those who hurt you will eventually screw up themselves and karma will come back if it´s deserved.  Hope the 16 truths inspired you!

Sont les mots qui vont tres bien ensemble..

Post Soundtrack: Michelle by the Beatles

I was born 33 years ago today.  33 fucking years.  33 fucking years, unmarried and single.  This was not how I thought my life would be at 33.  My time will come when it comes, but fuck I don’t like climbing up in age.

You are as young as you feel, true, I feel like I’m still 23, I live my life fun and carefree.  I’m still incredibly childish, something I will always be.  Luckily my friends too.  Yet the rest of the world, my friends back in Europe they are all sophisticated with house, kids and the package.

I still have so much to learn, but I know now at least who I am as a woman, what I like and dislike. Who I want in my life.  Next step is being the woman I want to be.  I have just found my profession and I would love many more years doing this.

My clock started last year and to be honest, I really want children.  Not now, but hopefully not too far in the distant future.  I would love to get married, I’m really not bothered about actually being married.  I just want to have a wedding party.  OK, I do love the idea of calling someone my husband, have a partner in crime to be childish together with as we grow old.  It;s not pressure, but I feel sentimental when I see all my friends having their rock beside them and experiencing life together.

To me, sharing your life is important or it all seems worthless.

I’m going to drink some fine wine now instead

Something in the way she moves attracts me like no other. .

Post Soundtrack: Something by the beautiful George Harrison

My entrapment post yesterday was a big hit, held a little seminar about it at work today.  I had to re-edit and add some additional details.  I’ve gotten many Facebook messages from women and men that found it funny but spot on.  So check it out.

I’ve been told by many to watch “Cloud Atlas” the movie, that I would absolutely love it.  I heard mixed messages, but when my best friend made me read this following quote 3 times at least and telling me ‘I would soooo get this.’ I thought OK I will watch it.  So we had a discussion about it. This is the quote.  Which according to my best friend should be read at least 3 times.  Do it.
“Belief, like fear, love, is a force to be understood as we understand the theory of relativity and the principles of uncertainty – a phenomenon that determines the course of our lives. Yesterday, my life was headed in one direction. Today, it is headed in another. Yesterday, I believed I would never have done what I did today. These forces that often remake time and space, that can shape and alter who we imagine ourselves to be, begin long before we are born and continue after we perish. Our lives and our choices, like quantum trajectories, are understood moment to moment. At each point of intersection, each encounter, suggests a new potential direction.  Proposition, I have fallen in love with Louisa Rey.  Is this possible? I just met her and yet, I feel like something important has happened to me.”

I totally understand this, I also believe in past lives.  Say what you want, but I have gone back to my past lives through hypnosis, fascinating, where I experienced 3 different life times.  Laugh all you want, but I swear it happened, at least something I can’t explain happened.

One of the most annoying thing I hear people say is ” You need to move on.” You “Have to let go.”  First of all, I find it very disrespectful having others telling you something you are very aware of yourself.  Secondly, even though if you do let go and try to move on, it doesn’t mean it works or you forget.

People are different and deal with things different.But then, and this is where the rolling of the eyes start.  What if you are not meant to?  Here me out.  There have been people in and out of my life I have easily let go and moved on from, be it friends or lovers.  Then there are those who you are struggling with.  There are certain people in my lifetime that has had profound effect on me and harder to move on or still live inside me.

There are people who I remember the first time I met them I just knew something,  I was instantly drawn to them, there was a connection, one I couldn’t understand but the person would not leave my mind.  I’ve had that, in fact the ones I have had the hardest time letting go are  the ones I was drawn to the first time I saw them.  I was instantly pulled to them.  Some people call this soul mates, but to me that just sounds cheesy and scare people off.

It means your energies has crossed path before.  You just feel a connection. An energy.

An energy that maybe from lifetimes ago you had a connection with this person.

All I know is, I don’t believe there is a coincidence with those who you feel a sudden attraction to and have hard TIME letting go.  I have always LOVED science. Anything to do with quantum theory, energy and relativity.  I do believe forces of circumstances shape our path and what we attract to us.  I have been very good at that, mostly the bad though.  It is all energy.

I said before that I believe it was energy and some law of attraction that brought certain people to my lives, but also because they were meant to.

Think about it, there must be certain people in your life that you instantly felt drawn to? Inside you knew you needed this person in your life, that they are meant to be a part of it someway. They wont leave your mind, be it good or bad, they pop back in.  That’s energy.  Believe in forces and learn to recognise them and not deny them.

Love this, my favorite.

I finally found one of my favorite pieces of work I ever did.  It was a music video for a Thai rock band.  Story of love and how no one is wrong or right.  Husband and wife have a violent fight, wife goes completely mental.  She is sick of having a life waiting for her husband to come home from work. It´s so beautifully shot.  Eerily familiar ….

Couldnt post the video so you have to click here

watch out boys she’ll chew you up . .

Post Soundtrack: Maneater by Hall&Oates

Rules of entrapment.  Dedicated to my sluts

I have told many of my guy friends about the women trap, it sneaks up on you and BAMM she has you under her thumb.  It might not always be a bad thing, some guys need discipline.  You should respect the girl but know that it is natural for any woman to want to command without you knowing it.

The entrapment is not something that happens straight away, us women are smarter than that.  We use time to coax the men into our web and before you know it, he is stuck.

Why am I telling you this?  Once a woman has you in her web, it will be very hard to get out.  You will start to loose yourself.  So I promised some friends to post the signs of when you are being lured by a woman, as some feel they are in the web.

• She will start off as carefree and not fuzzy.  She says she believes in freedom, trust and doesn’t mind anything.  She enjoys everything you do.
• She will encourage you to go out with your boys.  Tell you to have fun and there is no problem.  She wont be calling to check up on you.  This is relaxing your muscles, she is massaging you.  You think ” This is great! “
• She will present you with little comfort surprises.  Bake you cupcakes, drop by just to give you food and then disappear.  She might even cook for you and your boys to enjoy an evening of fun and come off as the best girlfriend ever. She is smearing you with little luxuries that make you feel special and strokes the ego.
• Suddenly you might just find something really subtle, but not too threatening she adds to your home.  May be a dishwasher scrub, soap.  A very mundane thing and she will say “I noticed you were out of….’ or “I got you this to make washing up easier…” It won’t be big, it will be a tiny gesture and you will feel you have someone who is watching out for you.  She notices the little things.
• She will want to go away with you somewhere, this will be not too quick in the relationship but maybe 3-4 months down the line. She will want to create a memory and sentiment so you two have something special, a good holiday to look back on.
• She still wont complain about anything, letting you roam free and join in even.  She is great!  She is not like other girls! “Go on, watch the game with the boys.”
• Now comes the big one.  She will do a grand gesture.  Most likely buy you something really nice, rare, expensive or do something super cool that catches you off guard.  She may just ask for a romantic dinner in return, she doesn’t want anything.  This is quite important step when it comes here.  You now without knowing will feel a bit obligated to be with her as she has done or given you something amazing.
• Then she waits for the fuck up. Something that will create a little fight or something that has displeased.  You will feel bad and want to make it up to her.
• This is where she is starting to get you.  You will notice that she will pull out the guilt trip card when suddenly you haven’t done or won’t go along with something she wants.  “I was planning to make that dish you said you liked during that trip..” You feel, OK maybe I should stay in with her. Yup, she looped it around. She will remind you of something and you instantly feel you need to please or ask for forgiveness.  You will most likely then make a stupid promise you will regret later.  “I promise to tell you next time.” “I promise I wont be out late.” “Sorry I made you jealous, I promise I wont do it again”  She is molding.
• Little by little she will have these little rules of what pleases and displeases her, you will know them.  If you break one of them she will then create a little hell, cut you off or not talk to you.  Make you feel you done bad.
• She will still be doing little surprises, it usually involves food.  Like give you food, maybe something healthy (Shows she cares for your well being) buy tickets to a game.  To remind you how lucky you are.
• Before you know it she has you under her thumb and you are on her leash.  It’s a slow build up but suddenly you rather listen to her than make her mad.
• She will pull a stunt to make you jealous.
• Suddenly you are no longer allowed to live the carefree life you once had.
• She’s got you.
• If you want out, she find a way to make you stay.
• Entrapment…..
• (The real cray cray ones will get pregnant at this point.)

You might ask why? Why would a woman do this.  Well it’s simple, she want’s to be with you all the time or you be available to her for whenever she wants.  So technically it is not a bad thing, it’s flattery.

How do I know this?  This is what women do (some subconsciously) and ruins most relationships. This is all us women talk about when we talk with our girlfriends.  TRUST ME!  Well at least in this region of the world. We will talk strategy how to tame the man and make him obey and listen to you.

I have tried many times with different men, failed miserably.  I learned you should never try to tame a man, guilt trip his habits, but we women we will keep on doing it.  When this goes wrong, which it mostly will do, it will backfire to the woman.  I’m not proud of this, but I will be honest enough to say I have done it.  Many women fuck up trying to do this, I did, they fuck up during the middle stage.  It’s all in the pace, most women move to fast, but the real clever ones move at a slow pace.  I have friends who will deny it, but is obviously under a tight leash.  Wink wink to Mr. School dance

Now don’t get me wrong and start to freak out anytime a girl does something nice for you.  She likes doing these things, she does, but she is investing here. Of course we love to spoil our man.  It is not about that, this is for the men who get fooled in the start only to find a different behaviour later.

I know this sounds incredibly fucked up, women wont admit to it.  But my girlfriends and I all agree this is what us women do.  There are shitty thing men do to, and all women are not bad.  But watch out for the signs, I’m never wrong.

My nickname is “The Plotkiller” I can basically figure out the story line and ending to everything.  Probably why I love writing so much. This pattern/script is used everyday.  The steps are so easy to read when you learn to recognise them, just depends how good she is with all the executions.  But I seen this movie many many times.